The first thing you need to do is to be supportive of your child. Help them to know it’s OK to express how they feel and are those feelings hurt anyone by telling a teacher, parent or mentor? Parents keep telling kids to take their time when talking and sometimes when talking is going to be difficult for them, it’s just better to take the time at home and discuss with your children in a way that is comfortable to both the child and yourself.
You can show them a behavior plan you created in the next day or so that shows them the different tools they can use to handle negative behaviors. Explain to them that the most powerful tool we have is our reaction and whether or not we make others around us feel shamed, hurt or surprised.
By doing this, you away from virtually always having to do things with a bully in order to avoid being done. It Concepts like aitory power and contingent contractions venture seven steps ahead of where your child is.
Teach your child to instead look out for the other person to see when they are most upset. To recognize when he or she is the one being held back or when they are the one being selected to be the victim and should tell someone immediately.
It’s also important for them to know that you need them to stay calm and in control as much as possible.
When you actually know of your child being bullied, like when you saw him or her acting aggressively, use a symbol, like a circle around their waist and radius, for a puppet. This way that symbol can be something that they wouldn’t feel is being taken away. The person at the end of that puppet walked away.
Tell the teacher to address the problem at the start. Present the problem in a respectful way and not as if they have to come to the school and be humiliated. Take steps to keep the situation from escalating or change a child’s self-perception.
Create a plan to handle the issue when your child is calm and in control and talk to the teacher. Educate yourself about the issue and then talk to the teacher about it.
Create a behavior program everyone in the family can participate in. This program should include the self-talk and important things no one needs to say. Some examples might include: I will never joke with the teacher at the beginning of the school term. Many kids have experienced teasing from other kids as a child and didn’t speak up and those same kids will probably not talk up until later on in life. It is magnified in a situation as complicated as child bullying. Be sure to use the behavior programs anyway.
These are ultimately the key steps that a parent needs to take to try and get their kids to stop bullies in their midst. Since so many adults also play a role in child bullying, the problem can get worse as it propagates back in family circles.
Children need to be taught that it is down to them to deal with the problem rather than being told to. Children don’t have to put up with their peers teasing any more, no matter what the source. No child should have to deal with child bullying.
Child bullying still remains a big problem, but it seems to be getting better, for the most part anyway. Educate your kids, spend time talking to them, helping them learn to talk and not run, and let them know it is completely unacceptable and they will not participate in child bullied. It is imperative a parent is a child’s safety and your child’s future in this instance. They need to embrace the problem and learn self-protection from children and adults. Remember, you handled the situation more than anybody else did by talking and advocating for all the right things.
The time has come to get your child to be the biggest problem you can possibly make, not the other kids. By giving them tools to handle it and a behavior plan to keep from being bullied alone, they will thrive and you won’t be worrying about your child getting bullied in the future.