Dealing with the emotions of a family member you haven’t seen in years is never easy. But it can be even more complicated when that family member turns up on your doorstep. When a loved one returns to your life after an extended absence, it’s natural to feel a mix of emotions. There is joy, of course, but there is also sadness. For some, there is also fear. But the good news is that you can overcome these emotions and get through the experience. Of course, there’s no guarantee that you and your loved one will make it through. But you can be prepared for anything.
There is perhaps no greater joy in the world than seeing your long-lost family members again. These moments can be exhilarating and also saddening. As happy as we are, many emotions can arise from seeing family again. This mixed bag of emotions can mask the most important quality that is needed when seeing family again: the ability to be genuinely happy.
Be Joyful than Stressful
There’s no doubt that welcoming your long-lost family member home can be stressful. If you’ve spent years hearing tales of your sibling’s wild exploits, you may worry that your sibling is now bringing their baggage from home with you. But, like anything in life, you can certainly prepare yourself for the return, cope with any complications, and make the most of the experience.
Do Not Expect Too Much
After years apart, you’ve finally reunited. The anticipation and excitement leading up to the moment your family comes together again are overwhelming, and you almost can’t believe it’s here. Now it’s time to put the past behind you and move forward, but how do you do that? One way is, to be honest, and realistic with yourself about your expectations and feelings. Expectations are essential since you don’t know what you may be dealing with.
Keep Them Closer To You
As you get older, you might lose touch with some of your relatives. Some people only know their grandparents and aunts, and uncles. Other people maintain relationships with cousins and distant relatives. What matters most is that once you reconnect with a family member, you want to be able to have healthy relationships with them. If you are in a situation where you are welcoming back a family member that you haven’t spoken to in a few years, it can be tough. Unfortunately, there is no “one size fits all” answer for handling the reintegration process. No two individuals are the same, and the relationship with a family member is no different.
You may feel excited and relieved if you have recently reunited with a long-lost family member. And you may be tempted to do all you can to make the new relationship work. But before you decide to extend an open invitation for this person to move into your new life, consider how they may fit into your plans. Consider the steps you need to take to avoid misunderstandings and keep things running smoothly.
Create New Memories
It can be extremely disheartening and frustrating to return to a former home after months or years away. Things may have completely changed, and sadly, you may remember how you once felt about the space, and you may have even become bitter and angry over time. But if you give yourself the time and effort to get back in touch with the past slowly, the bitterness and pain will dissipate, and you will feel restored and renewed as you reconnect.