Life can sometimes be extremely difficult and stressful. On occasion, no matter what you do, you just cannot seem to find the correct balance. That is why there are people who develop their own way of coping with the problems that they are facing.
Knowing More About Coping Mechanisms
Coping mechanisms, a term used by psychologists, is defined as “a behavioural or cognitive strategy used to change or maintain mood, reduce anxiety, cope with stress, and promote well-being.” It is a technique people use to deal with life’s problems. Examples of coping strategies include remaining positive, using humour, giving up control, venting, and seeking social support. Coping mechanisms can be implemented by individuals or as a group and are one of the best ways for someone to work through stressful events.
Our coping mechanisms are the things we do to cope with or manage our emotions. They help us to cope and handle life’s obstacles. Some coping mechanisms include negative self-talk, avoiding the situation or people, seeking negative validation, focusing on others, placing blame, comparing ourselves to others, or giving up. Many of us have a coping mechanism that does not help us feel better or handle our challenges. These are coping mechanisms that make our lives worse.
Some people turn to alcohol, drugs, and unhealthy relationships to help ease the pain. Others drink too much, eat too much, or overdo drugs. But one coping mechanism that has helped me immensely in life is writing. Poetry, in particular, has helped me to deal with the overwhelming nature of life.
Strategies to Cope with Difficulties in Life
Everyone has problems. Some are big, while others are small. Sometimes, we feel like we cannot handle them, and other times, we want to bury our heads in the sand. But the fact is, problems are a part of life. They come and go, and you can either let them get to you and make things worse, or you can learn to cope with them and use them as an opportunity to gain experience and grow.
Here are some tips for coping with problems and relieving stress in one’s life:
- Take a step backward. Stress can overwhelm you and can cause you to become overwhelmed. It can keep you up at night, make you feel sick, and even affect your health. Instead of attempting to fight stress head-on, try taking a step backward when you are feeling overwhelmed. Rest, relax and take a few deep breaths. Research shows that taking a few moments to step away from a stressful situation can actually help.
- Be nice to thy self. Sometimes we are not nice to ourselves. Sometimes we get so busy and caught up in our day-to-day lives that we forget to take a step back and take some time for ourselves. We constantly put everyone else first. We have high expectations of ourselves, and we feel bad if we don’t achieve them. However, life is hard! Sometimes things do not go the way we expect them to. Things happen out of our control, and it is hard not to let that affect you.
- Find someone to whom you can talk. Most people want to solve their problems by themselves. Looking their problem in the eye and facing them is the best remedy. However, people run away from their problems because they fear they will lose their face. On the other hand, talking to someone, even if you do not share the issue, gives them the opportunity to vent and vent out. By talking with someone who will listen, we give ourselves a respite from the stresses of life.
- Look at the positive side of things. One of the basic tools in coping with stress and solving problems is always to focus on the positive. This is said to release endorphins in the brain, making us feel happier and more relaxed while the negative thoughts and emotions are expelled.
Some people use Gratitude as a technique to cope with problems and relieve stress in their lives. They tell themselves they are thankful and then realize that they are thankful for all the sun shines and the moon rises. It is natural to be stressed and upset over various issues, and it is often helpful to connect with others who are in the same situation. Of course, every situation will be different, and it is important to get advice from a professional if a traumatic event has triggered stressed feelings.